You are looking for ways to improve.
That's why you're here.
Improve not only your life but yourself.
Thankfuly for the many mistakes ive made.
Ive learnt a thing or two about improving.
I have a secret
What’s the secret?
High-quality time with loved ones.
Not only does being present with loved ones create an inner calmness.
It accelerates growth.
Let me explain.
Quality relationships offer inspiration, honesty, and feedback.
Accountability from someone you trust will open your mind to new ways of thinking.
Challenging current thought patterns and habits can be confronting.
Difficult to change.
Our first reaction will always be to defend our current way of doing things.
It's who we are.
It hurts when reality sets in and we have to change.
I have been going about life in an ineffective or incorrect way.
I can improve in a certain area.
I am challenged by someone I love.
But this is where the real growth happens.
Sitting at dinner on a random Wednesday.
My partner Beth challenged me to stop talking down about other basketball players.
I was unaware of what I was saying.
At first, this hurt my feelings.
But this wasn’t an attack to make me feel bad.
It was confrontation to help me grow.
I had to listen.
Learn.
Take action.
Grow.
When talking about other basketball players I had to be more positive.
Appreciate what everyone brings to the game.
This new way of thinking created a positive change in my life.
I now have a greater appreciation for everyone who plays the sport.
Myself included.
She brought accountability and awareness to a negative habit in my life.
I’m still not perfect.
The more positive I speak about others, the more positive the man in the mirror feels.
My self-love and confidence increased the more I viewed other people the same.
Loved ones create growth and change.
Surround yourself with people who you inspire to be like.
We are who’s beside us.
But what do we do if we are alone and unsupported?
Our friendship group is a negative space.
We aren’t surrounded by people who inspire us to be the best version of ourselves.
Then something has to change.
We must find those people.
Here’s how.
The first step is to look at our inner self.
Friendships and relationships can be a great reflection of who we are at that current time.
We attract similarities.
To attract a different crowd, we must first become that.
Let’s work.
Below is an exercise you can do to help attract the people you want in your life.
Grab a piece of paper or open notes on your phone.
Write down all the qualities of a friend or partner that you’d want in them.
Make this personal.
Your dream friend.
Then circle or tick the qualities you yourself have.
For the ones you tick put an example of what you’ve done to achieve that quality in the last 48 hours.

Be honest.
Let’s repeat this process with qualities you don’t want in a friend/partner.
Tick the negative qualities you don’t have.

What’s left is a map.
Your personal map.
A guide to becoming your own version of the perfect friend.
Pursue the positive qualities that aren't ticked.
Solve the negative qualities that aren't ticked.
Become the friend that you need, become that for someone else.
Help someone who is alone.
Who needs uplifting.
You will attract like-minded people with your actions.
Want an arrogant friend who won't listen, be that person.
Want kind people in your life, be kind to everyone you meet.
This will take some time.
Develop the qualities you want in others, in yourself.
See where this takes you.
Let's recap everything so far.
So what’s the number 1 way to improve your life?
It's 3 things haha.
Become a high-quality person.
Find like-minded high-quality people.
Spend as much high-quality time with these high-quality people.